Growing up, we get advice, whether we want it or not. Our parents telling us what choices to make. Friends throwing in their two cents. And most of the time we brush it off. Because we think people don’t understand our situation. Or just because we want to make our own decisions. Make our own mistakes, but mostly conquer our own victories. The number one sentence I heard when going through tough times was “I know it sounds cliché, but it will get better”. Now, first things first. Life is unexpected. Life will not be good to you because you are a good person. Life, the world and everything in it will beat you down mercilessly, for nothing. You can feel shit for years because one person thought it would be funny to call you a random nickname. You can feel shit because someone was taken away from you when you weren’t ready to face a loss. You can feel like shit because you became an addict after making the mistake of giving in. There will be lovers leaving, there will be betrayal from friends. There will be death, sorrow, a lot of disappointment and helplessness. But there will also be hope, faith, curiosity, friendship, love and peace.
One thing I had to learn the hard way was that the world doesn’t owe me anything. That if I want a place in the world I will have to work for it and create it myself. Life is not like in the movies. Even if you have talent you won’t automatically have a straight road ahead of you. Your mind will get clouded by your thoughts, by interceptors that push you off your path. People will be ahead of you without looking back, making you feel like you’re loosing the race. But there is no race. There is only you and your expectations.
Never ever let anyone make you feel like you’re worthless. That you don’t belong or that you should be content with less. “If you want something, go out and get it” they say. But there is no guarantee that you will get what you want. On the other hand, not trying at all won’t protect you from feeling miserable.
My advice is that, whatever you do, push forward. Find out who you want to be and strive towards that image. Set your own morals and stay true to them. You can’t please everybody but you should bloody make sure you are happy with yourself. At the end of the day, that’s who you’re stuck with. So push forward and stand up. No matter how deep you fall, no matter how hard you fall, who steps on you. Stand back up and push forward, upward and always hold your head high with a clear gaze. Your thoughts will follow, and then, only then will you make things better.